Adam’s says her life has “completely changed for the better” after welcoming two children via surrogate with her husband.
The former doctor-turned-comedian and author said he hopes his son and daughter will forgive him “for mistakes he made along the way.”
first shared this news while talking to Lauren Laverne on BBC Radio 4’s Desert Island Disc.
In his memoir, This Is Going to Hurt; The Secret Diary of a Junior Doctor, which has sold over three million copies.
It was later turned into a BAFTA-winning BBC television series. Ben Whishaw and Ambika Mod.
During the episode Desert Island Discs, he discussed his medical career, his early life and sexuality, and the latest additions to his family.
She is married to Game of Thrones producer James Farrell since 2018.
“Our lives are very boring, or we did until six months ago,” he said.
“Now, and this isn’t something I’ve talked about before, there is no peace, because we have two very young children – Ruby, who is six months old, and Ziggy who is two months old.
“I don’t need to explain that having kids changes your life, but it has completely changed it for the better and also ruined it.”
Kay said the children were born via surrogacy in the US and that Ruby had a “difficult pregnancy”.
He became emotional as he received a phone call about her impending birth, but was unable to fly out in time to be there at the moment.
He said, “I have many thoughts about how to be a good father and how to fix it and be there, and I’ve started very, very badly by remembering it.”
Asked about his feelings about being a father, he continued: “I’m obviously going to mess it up.
“But I think if I can’t project onto them in some way, if I can let them describe their own paths through life.
“And if they’re as happy as they can be, as healthy as they can be, then hopefully they’ll forgive me for all the mistakes I make along the way.”
Kay also discussed that she believed her memoir served a useful purpose by dissuading young people from pursuing careers in medicine.
“Since the book came out, I’ve had various angry messages from parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles saying, ‘My son, daughter, niece, nephew, grandson, wanted to be a doctor. Then they read your book. . What do you say to that?’
“And the answer, I’m afraid, is – well. Because if that book is going to get you off the drug, then the drug is really going to get you off the drug.
He added: “I hope I haven’t stopped people from seeing their doctors.
“I hope I’ve made people think differently about their doctors, and about the things they’re going through.”
Desert Island Discs airs on BBC Sounds and BBC Radio 4 on Sundays at 11.15am.